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The Disadvantages of Having Large Breasts



Someone asked me why I would even consider getting my infamous tatas reduced. My answer was as follows: "There is absolutely no benefit to having extremely large breasts, especially if you're a small-framed woman." In fact, I can think of 11 negatives to having them. That is not me or my tatas in the picture, by the way. It's a Nigerian woman who blew up on Instagram three years ago for her massive breasts. I can only imagine what her back feels like. 

1. Men Don't Want to Get to Know Us

Men don't want to get to know us as people when we have gigantic breasts. They only want to know our breasts. They want to know what they look like under our shirts or what they feel like in their hands. We could have amazing personalities and be the most loving persons in the world, but they will only view us in a sexual way. They'll rarely look at us as wife or girlfriend material because most of them automatically assume that we are loose or easy just because we have large breasts. As if that has anything to do with who we are as people.

2. Other Women Hate Us

Other women usually hate us because of the way men act around us. They often think we're hoes, or we're "parading around in front of their husbands/boyfriends" on purpose with our big boobies to try to steal them away. Nope. We're just minding our own business. The men are being dogs all on their own. 

3. They Cause Pain and Discomfort

Big boom-booms are notorious for causing a wealth of problems up to and including back pain, shoulder pain, neck pain, rashes, shoulder cuts, posture problems, spinal disarray, and more. I've had my run-ins with all such problems, and that's the primary reason I'm going to be getting the reduction procedure. 

4. You Can't Play Sports

Have you ever tried to play tennis or basketball or do jumping jacks or rope jumping with 10 pounds of flesh bouncing around? It isn't pretty. Football? Forget about it. 

5. You Have Trouble Finding Bras

It's hard enough to find a bra when you just have a large cup size. Being small around the torso with a large cup size makes it very difficult to find the right bras. If I'm lucky, I'll find one bra in my size for like $1,000 at some department store 50 miles away. Otherwise, I have to order them off the internet, and they don't fit half the time when I do that. 

6. Your Clothing Selection Is Limited

A busty woman can never wear whatever she wants to wear. Things like lingerie and bathing suits and "summer dresses" are almost unheard of. There's a world of stuff that we just can't fit. Even if we do manage to cram our boobies into the item, it doesn't look attractive at all. It looks very awkward. We either get breast camel toes on the sides, or they get smushed down and look like whole bean bag chairs under our shirts. 

7. They Sag Ungodly

Gravity is a b*tch, and when we have extremely large breasts, the weight makes them drop down like two bowling balls hanging from our necks on a rubber band. 

8. They're a Safety Hazard

Big boobs can get caught in a conveyor belt if we work in a warehouse. They can also suffocate our mates or our infant children. If we're not careful, we can slap some folks in the face/neck/chest (depends on their height) by accident and risk being charged with assault. 

9. It's Hard to Sleep on Your Stomach

It's very difficult to get a good night's sleep when we have huge boom-booms. It actually hurts to lie on them. 

10. They Get Stank

The breasts are the first part of the body to start sweating when we work out or work at our jobs really hard. That feels really stank. 

11. Barnum & Bailey Tries to Hire You

The circus often mistakes us for participants when they're in town. Hell, they've even tried to recruit us a few times. 

Hopefully, this little half-serious-and-half-playful piece will help you understand the dilemma of having large breasts from a sufferer's perspective. For me, they've been nothing but trouble. Since I don't have a village of children to breastfeed, and I already have airbags in my car, I don't see much use for them at all. 


The Toxic Narcissist and Empath Tango

 


Toxic relationships are games, and each participant's objective is to win. In a narcissist-codependent or narcissist-empath relationship, the narc wants to "win" by completely destroying the target. The target wants to "win" by changing the narcissist back into something that he never was in the first place. She wants to make him into a loving, caring, and empathetic person. Both parties do it for the wrong reason, which is to validate themselves.

The narc would feel powerful just knowing that he caused someone so much emotional pain that she could no longer function properly. The codependent would feel important if she could turn a frog into a prince or a devil into an angel. If they could only "win," they could experience that sense of control they never had when they were children. 

These dysfunctional entanglements often go on for years, back and forth, break up and makeup, no contact and re-contact, etc. Nobody ever wins, though. The longer it goes on, the more both parties lose. The empath is the one who loses the most, however. She loses self-esteem, self-respect, confidence, hope, trust, and sometimes even faith in humanity. If she plays the game too long, she runs the risk of being stuck in it forever. 

It's not too late for her, though. As long as she has an ounce of hope (for herself) and a mustard seed of faith, she can get out. She can heal, and she can find true love one day. All she has to do is stop playing the game. 

How does one stop playing the game, though? 

It's really not as complicated as people make it. It's just like a game of catch where two people throw a ball back and forth to each other... over and over and over again. If one of them doesn't want to play the game anymore, all that person has to do is stop throwing the ball back. Put it down instead of throwing it back and simply walk away. Game over. 

"The Last Shift" and "Unhinged": Good Movies or No?



There hasn't been a whole lot going on in the movie realm because of COVID-19, but our theaters slowly re-opened. Some folks have been brave enough to enter the premises. The theaters require all visitors to wear masks, and they practice social distancing. Right now, social distancing isn't hard because not many people are willing to go out at all. My philosophy is this: It's not any more dangerous to go to a movie theater than it is to show up at an essential job every day. There's much more risk at the local grocery retailers/department stores than there is at the movie theaters. But to each his or her own. 

"Unhinged" seemed interesting to me because it was a road rage movie. When I saw the trailer, I thought it would be an action movie with some element of comedy to it. I hadn't seen Rusell Crowe in a while, and it was good to see a familiar face. I'm not an avid fan of his, but I'm sort of a fan. 

I didn't care for the movie too much, however. It wasn't what I expected. It turned out to be more of a horror/slasher movie than I wanted. I wouldn't have watched it if I had known that as I don't do horror at all. Russell Crowe gave an amazing performance, but the movie was too gruesome for my taste. 

On the other hand, I enjoyed "The Last Shift" very much. It definitely won't be a box office hit, but it was a hit in my book. I liked the plot and theme. It's about ordinary people with real-life issues. That's what compelled me to see it. I'm a writer, and I'd have probably written a similar screenplay if I'd had the chance. 

"The Last Shift" ended up being a different movie than I thought it would be, too. It took some unexpected turns and made me think hard about racism, stereotypes, work politics, and the like. The only thing I didn't like about it was the ending. It was too abrupt, and it didn't thoroughly explain what the two characters were thinking and how they felt at that last moment. 

I'd give "The Last Shift" three and a half stars, and I'd give "Unhinged" two and a half stars. "Unhinged" might be enjoyable to those who like horror flicks, but I didn't enjoy it. "The Last Shift" probably won't be popular with the superhero crowd or the action-movie group. It's a slow-moving flick that provokes thought. Watching it is sort of like reading a book. Therefore, it won't be for people who are looking for instant gratification.