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Tricky Trauma


Trauma is a tricky thing. Sometimes, we think we've "dealt with" a specific traumatic event, and then we find out years later that we haven't really dealt with it at all because it was much too painful. Then we end up making really dumb decisions in an attempt to close that wound our way. Even worse, the dumb choices we make to try to soothe ourselves from one traumatic experience can open the door to a new traumatic experience... or two.

There are many predators in the world, and unfortunately, our vulnerability draws them to us. If we're not careful, those predatory personalities can totally take advantage of our trauma and cause additional trauma while they're at it. Then we're left dealing with the new trauma, the old trauma, and the shame or guilt of erring spiritually and not being who we were created to be. 

There's a constant battle going on between goodness and evil. We can't ever forget that or allow ourselves to get so wrapped up in a self-directed mission that we blind our own eyes to the battle and get whooped. 

It's pretty tough sometimes just to live, survive, and try to be happy in this life. We don't always do the right thing. Fortunately, falling short is human nature, and we have a merciful Savior who knows that and provides the grace to make it through. Every day we open our eyes is a whole new chance for us to get it right. It ain't over 'til it's over. Just because you lose a battle in 2020 doesn't mean you'll lose the same battle in 2021. 

The Upsides of Being Alone


Some people feel super down when they have to spend a part of their life alone. If you feel this way, you're not the only one. With society's "everyone must have a partner" view on relationships, it's hard not to. Not being in a relationship can make you feel like a failure, reject, or something worse with that mindset. There are other more positive perspectives you can have about being alone, however. Additionally, there are lots of plusses to flying solo for a while. These are three of them.


You Get to Plan Each Day


When you're by yourself, the canvas is clean, and the sky is the limit every day. You can paint the portrait of your life any way you so desire. You can spend your time how you want to spend it, and you don't have to consult with anyone else first. You don't have to ration any of your time out to any other folks. You don't have to explain why you're going here or there, and you don't have to compromise about your activities. You can do whatever you want, no matter how silly, trivial, or corny someone else thinks it might be. You can use all your time doing things that make you and only you happy. 


You Have Total Freedom


Even the most responsible and mature people need a little freedom sometimes. We need the freedom to laugh, live, and act a fool if we want to. When you're alone, you can just pick up and travel around the world if you like. You can jump on a motorcycle and ride to wherever, or you can take a cruise to the end of the waters. You can come home if you feel like it or stay elsewhere if you like. You can keep your house messy or tidy, and you can eat healthy or unhealthy. You can also choose clothing that makes you feel comfortable, and you don't have to worry about anyone else trying to change your unique style. Shucks, when you're in your own home, you can even choose to wear nothing if you like. 


You Can Interact With New People 


Nothing is stopping you from meeting and interacting with new people. It's your option to choose the people you want to allow into your world and the relationship that you want to have with them. You can spend some of your alone time making new friends and acquaintances. Love might be just around the corner, too. 

Of course, there are downsides to being solo, like having to pay all your bills alone and not having someone to hold you at night. But some of the positives are fantastic. If you're alone, you can take this time to get to know yourself better and do things you never had the time to do before. You can also spend this time reflecting on your past relationships and figuring out what you want and what you will and won't accept. There's an old saying that you should always "look at the bright side of things." Consider that the next time you get down about being by yourself.