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Thursday, November 25, 2021

Was It Really All Your Fault?

 

You can and should hold yourself accountable for your poor judgment calls, actions, and decisions, but you do not have to own anything that isn't your doing. 

You do not have to take on more than your part in any bad situation, and you do not have to agree with others who try to force-feed the blame to you, either. That, too, is a choice you can make. You can refuse to eat a platter of self-blame you make for yourself, and you can refuse to eat one that someone else sends to you as a parting gift. Simply disagree with consuming it. 

"No, thank you. I disagree. It was not all my fault. I didn't 'do it to myself,' since I wasn't the only one present or involved. I had no control over someone else's choices, behaviors, and actions. I was only responsible for mine."

The entire world can tell you everything was your fault, but that doesn't mean you have to agree with it. There's nothing anyone can do to make you take that into your soul and allow it to wreak havoc if you reject it

Most situations involve more than one person and more than one perspective. Allow others to have their perspective, but don't allow anyone to blameshift you into self-flagellation. Forgive yourself and ask forgiveness for whatever caused the blame issue and then speed on with the faith that you are forgiven

Tuesday, November 23, 2021

The Concept of "No Regrets" Is Pretty Solid

 

The "no regrets" attitude is a common concept in today's society, and it's actually a good one. There is no point in regretting the experiences we've already gone through and choices we've already made. However, refusing to regret something doesn't mean we believe what we did was right. It doesn't mean we're proud of our acts or decisions. It doesn't mean we aren't sorry for hurting someone or making a decision that somehow hurt us. We can know that we didn't make the best choice in some situation or another and still refuse to bind ourselves to the heaviness of regret. We can't change the past.

Carrying regret isn't fruitful. Taking the hard lessons for whatever they're worth is. Using the tragedies, traumas, or disappointments as reference points for making better decisions in the future is

When we allow the spirit of regret to latch onto us, we lock ourselves in a cage of despair. We give our enemies free playtime, and we stunt our own growth as well. We can't focus on our potential to make tomorrow better if we're stuck on things that didn't go our way yesterday. It isn't a wise move to make mentally, spiritually, or emotionally. 

We have lives to live, purposes to fulfill, and many things to accomplish during this brief period on Earth. We can't stay stuck in a spot five miles behind with Shoulda, Woulda, and Coulda. Those stooges don't want us to make it to the finish line on top. They want to hold us back, but we have to move past them and press forward. Will Do, Will Have, Will Be, and God's Will are waiting for us.

Reject the spirit of regret. Forgive yourself and others and refuse to allow anyone else to beat the dead horse of yesterday's missteps. Disagree with all negative commentary thrust at you, and keep your eyes focused upward and ahead.